Tantra simply means having sex without an orgasm, and where's the fun in that? However, the truth behind this art could not be more different to the common perception of Tantra. By using its inherent skills, you could find that your orgasm does indeed scale new heights of dizzy pleasure, and who doesn't want that?!

Where to start?

In this digital age it's easy to find instructions for most things on the internet, but Tantra should not be one of them. There are all sorts of A-Z guides for curious lovers eager to try new things and how to learn how to do Tantra, but the absolute best way to get a grip on this (pun unintended!) is by visiting an expert – someone for whom this is their day to day trade. There are many massage parlours which offer this service, but for the best experience, choose an expert. Someone who specialises solely in Tantra.

What can I expect when I get there?

A true Tantra expert will have a room dedicated to the practice. It's important to soak up a rich atmosphere of candles, joss sticks, whale music and muted light from a plethora of table lamps to relax the soul before you even start. Your gay massager will be very used to putting clients at ease and enjoying themselves right from the start. You will disrobe and be given a towel for modesty purposes if you feel that you need this. Rather weirdly and due to Tantra's Hindu roots, from hereon in your penis will be known as Lingham, which means ‘wand of light'; rather unique, don't you think?

Once you are on the couch, your gay Tantra massager will begin by slowly working down the muscles in your body, head to toe to ensure full relaxation. It's important to remember that your brain is the key to creating Tantric pleasure, so concentrate on emptying your mind to achieve this. You will probably then be asked to lie on your back, legs apart so your entire Lingam area is open to your massager. Penetration does not take place during Tantric massage, but that doesn't mean that you won't experience intense pleasure.

The massage itself is a very slow and sensual one. Because your massager will have access to your whole Lingam area, he can stimulate your Lingam, perineum and bottom. But slowly and with great ease. Your penis will be touched gently and specific attention will be directed at the head of your Lingam.

What happens if I can't get an erection?

This is a fear that most men have, but in Tantra it doesn't matter. Pleasure is about more than the Lingam, so if it goes a little soft, that's fine. It's doubtless bound to pick up as the massage goes on!

What happens if I ejaculate?

A professional Tantric massager won't let that happen. Though they will be gently touching and stimulating the whole area and especially the head of the Lingam, they will back off for a bit if orgasm seems imminent.

Tantra is all about recognising your body's desires and learning how to satiate yourself in a different way to normal, therefore bringing you heightened orgasms.

It's a good question actually. With the expansion of the film and cinema world over the last century, each new step seems to trump the one before it, which is no surprise. However, we now seem to have reached a plateau of the cinematic world. The buzzwords now are: Netflix, Amazon Prime, video streaming, films on demand. Consumers are used to having their every film whim at their fingertips. But yet, there is still a loyal cohort who favour DVDs over virtual TV. Why?

To start with the basics, the sound and picture quality of streaming video is in no way as good as physical media (by which I mean tangible media, not the literally physical). And let's face it, good quality sound and vision can make or break an enjoyable viewing. Stick with the DVDs for a guaranteed way to keep that quality high, which is important if you're settling in for a while. With video-streaming, it's all too easy to just watch short clips of the action, moving from one to ‘tother as you please. Which is all well and good if variety is what you're after, but if you're looking for something you can really get into, then having a DVD right there with your favourite film is far preferable to scouring the web for something which might fit the criteria, but equally might not, and then you discover that's a premium video so you have to pay. But ah-ha! Not with a gay porn DVD you don't. Stick it on your TV, your laptop, anywhere you like, sit back and relax.

They might be slightly more cumbersome to carry around than your iPad, but gay porn DVDs can be enjoyed, no matter where you are. They are not reliant on the vagaries of home wi-fi networks or dodgy internet connections when you're out and about. So even if you're in the middle of the North Sea wending your way to the Shetland Islands, you will still be able to watch your favourite scenes – over and over again....

Reliability. That's a big one on the porn scene, especially if you prefer the longer films. No-one wants an interrupted viewing experience when they're enjoying some on-screen action, so you can trust a gay porn DVD to run smoothly throughout and not let you down as you come to the end (no pun intended). Streaming porn runs the risk of becoming a victim of bad internet connections, which is a guaranteed way to irritate the absorbed viewer. So if you're looking for a particular scene, or film, or sexual activity – a DVD will give you something you can rely on.

We're straying back into the dark ages now with Added Features. Gay porn DVDs will offer outtakes, deleted scenes and all kinds of other delights on their discs, just to let you enjoy the porn a little more. There's nothing quite like taking a sneak peak round the back to intrigue and arouse you even more. And sadly, that's not something currently offered by video streaming.

Who doesn't like to wank off to some good gay porn? So, when it comes to being sexually satisfied the questions is would you rather watch some dirty gay porn or hire the services of a hot gay escort?

Gay Escort vs Gay Porn

When it comes to your steamy sexual desires, two ways to live out these horny gay fantasies are by watching porn, or hiring the services of a gay escort. Both have advantages to them, and both boast beneficial effects which can better our lives, but which one of these options comes out on top?

Gay Porn

Gay Porn is an exciting and accessible creation, it has been around since the dawn of time, when man would paint on walls of caves - not only would it educate, it was there to titillate too. Now, thousands of years on, with the wonders of technology at our fingertips, porn and the adult industry has really taken hold, as pretty much any fetish is catered for, and no horny gay fantasy is left untouched.

Gay Porn can come in many formats, from seamy films, to naughty pictures, to quirky cartoons to filthy gay sex stories, all of which are highly erotic and enticing. The problem with Gay Porn is that to access high quality horny porn it can come with an ongoing membership fee that takes your bank details and can link back to you. If you go for the free gay porn then your computer virus scanner will be in overdrive so be very careful!

Gay Escorts

Gay Porn also lacks the obvious human touch. It is all very well to imagine yourself in the scenario presented in the porn, if you get some quality lube and pace yourself it can last quite a while but real touching and the feel of a hard man satisfying you is just not something you get when watching a screen!

If you choose to live out your sexy gay fantasies by spending time with a horny gay escort, then things are certainly simpler. Firstly, you know what you are getting, and there aren't any surprises, your personal information is secure, as escorts pride themselves on discretion at all times.

Gay Sex Fantasies

Hiring the services of gay escort goes a lot further than letting a gay porn scene unfold in your head. The reality of it all is wonderful as you are experiencing them physically, one to one - or more if you so desire. A gay escort can make your naughty sexy dreams a reality. Whatever your kink or desire, whether you just want a hot, hard and horny man to fuck you all night or you have BDSM fantasies, clothing fantasies or other interesting fantasies it is a Gay Escort that can really make them come true.

Nothing beats the touch of another human being. It is something we all naturally crave, so to put it as basically as possible, the attention of a gay escort wins every time over porn - or anything else for that matter.

When most people think about gay escorts, their thoughts immediately turn to sex. That's the only reason that they're for after all, isn't it? NO. This is a misconception. Sex probably remains the primary reason why people hire gay escorts, but there are lots of other facets too. Companionship is a big reason, and this can take a lot of different forms. One of these is having the ‘romantic' experience. It's less to do with naughty sex and more about feelings.

Romance with your Gay Escort

Romance means different things to different people, so this is about doing whatever makes you feel spoiled and romanced. And how would your escort do this? There are a variety of ways let's start with the scene setting:

1. Dressing the part. Having a smart, dapper gentleman with neat hair and smelling divine as your date for the evening is far more special than someone dressed in jeans and a t-shirt; no matter how gorgeous they are.
2. Being prepared to enjoy a quiet, intimate dinner/some drinks in an upmarket restaurant or bar. Shouting at each other in a club is definitely not going to induce romance.
3. Coquettish flirting with loaded glances. Not overt, but definitely there. Making eye contact with the occasional fluttering of eyelashes as you discuss deep and meaningful topics.
4. Showing affection. Not so much being all over you, but just a gentle stroke on the back of your hand, or letting his hand have a momentary pause on your knee. Nothing too advanced, just a gentle touch so you know that your gay escort is there for you – and he's romancing you rather than just preparing for a session in bed.
5. A moonlight walk under the stars, arm in arm. That's the first part of the evening. The second bit comes when you reach the bedroom.
6. Setting the bedroom scene. Wherever your date is taking place, your escort can induce a romantic feeling simply by taking care of the room around you. Closed curtains, a softly lit space and perhaps there are candles to light and dimmer switches so the light can be as soft or bright as you like.
7. Foreplay. Lots and lots of foreplay, from gentle kissing up and down your body to massage and stroking. This makes you feel special and like you have a romantic bond with your gay escort.
8. Whispering sweet nothings in your ear. It doesn't really matter what they're saying, but having a physical and mental bond with your escort can really bring a lot of romance into the equation.
9. Giving you the feeling of being swept off your feet.
10. Just listening. Having someone actually listen to you attentively means that a deeper bond can be established and suddenly the sex is all about intimacy with that specific person, rather than it feeling just like a random hook-up.

So there you have it. 10 ways in which your gay escort can make your date romantic. And by using the same escort again and again, you can create a romantic bond that can be really quite special.

Gay massage. Sometimes when you hear those words, you just can't help but joke about the infamous ‘happy ending'. Because a gay massage is always a sexual experience, right?

Wrong. It really doesn't have to be at all, there are plenty of other options that you can explore here with your gay escort.

Why a massage?

Quite apart from the sexual element, there are a whole other lot of health benefits associated with being naked and having slippery oil rubbed into every inch of your skin. It's a great way to completely relax and unwind, and a great idea for something to do with your gay escort.

Now, the massage technique that your gay escort will use depends on whether this is a straightforward encounter, or a sexual one with all the thrill of the unspoken messages being gently rubbed into your skin. Your gay escort will have a bunch of massage techniques that he is just dying to show you. Firstly, though, let us set the scene. A private space, a bed (or hammock, see below) and your chosen gay escort standing naked and exactly where you want him. If he stands near your head and concentrates on your face, neck and scalp, just the proximity of his naked torso in this position is more than enough to excite.

A different way of massage.

Something fun that it isn't often used, but feels amazing, is having your massage in a hammock, rather than a solid bed. The rocking motion means that your escort's hands will slip and slide in a not an entirely predictable way as they move over your body, adding to the thrill of the experience. It also means that you can be teased just when you're really beginning to enjoy yourself, by moving outwards and inwards – a great idea if you're into edging. Your gay escort will be massaging you in a way that changes with intensity and therefore prolongs the pleasure.

Erotic gay massage

Exactly as it says on the tin, an erotic massage is designed to stimulate and arouse from powerful manipulation of well-oiled limbs. This is also about your gay escort using delayed gratification, so don't expect too much, too quickly. Tantric massage is very similar but tends to be used for longer massage sessions and builds up the sexual arousal slowly and gently. Your gay escort will be delighted to use this technique on you, if that's what you want.

Or perhaps you'd like to explore spirituality with your gay escort, in which case he will love to show how he can facilitate the exchange of energy and take you down the path to full, sexual potency. The Sacred Touch massage technique that he will use here, allows the exploration of yourself in regard to your spirituality, sensuality and sexuality. During the Sacred Touch, all kinds of sexual exchange are permitted, making it an ideal choice for a way to spend an erotic evening with your gay escort.

Whatever type of gay massage you are looking for your gay escort will be able to satisfy your needs.

A gay sauna is all about acceptance and pleasure. It's one of the best places for gay men to feel relaxed, uninhibited and comfortable within a safe space. The whole thing is geared up for sexual pleasure, with large pools to accommodate the maximum number of men and private dark rooms for....well...the obvious, really.

Gay Escorts & Gay SaunasM

Even the words for naughtiness are titillating: risqué, rude, racy. So we've covered why you're going to love a gay sauna, but what exactly is it about these establishments that makes you feel like visiting it with your chosen gay escort is one of the naughtiest things that you can do?

On the one hand, you're both a slave to your base instincts. You're in a safe place where you know that you can be sexually fulfilled, and you don't have to worry about being judged. Removing doubt and uncertainty ramps up the sexual pleasure a notch. You're in all-male environment geared towards gay sex – what could be better?

Adventures in Gay Saunas

Then there's the touch of voyeurism. All around you there are going to be sexually aroused men and having the knowledge that you and your gay escort can definitely get it on together adds a frisson of excitement to the already bubbling pot of pleasure. Sex is guaranteed, not just a possibility. By going to a gay sauna you are flaunting your man and proclaiming to everyone "Look at me! Look who I'm with. I'm going to be having sex today."

And then we come on to the fact that gay saunas offer infinite sexual possibilities. And before you arrive, you just don't know what they are. You can take your naughty fantasies with you and for all you know, they could be fulfilled by the end of the night. There's total disinhibition. These guys are not going to judge anybody and feeling like you've entered an arena of acceptance is a very naughty feeling.

If you are completely new to Gay Saunas then he will be very happy to spend time teaching you how to be very naughty indeed. Initiating someone into new sexual practices? Yeah, that's very naughty indeed!

And once you've had your fill of the pools, sussed out the hot guys, discovered what you feel like doing with your gay escort, then you can head into one of the purpose-built darkrooms. After all, you can't run an establishment for men that promotes nudity and encourages disinhibition without providing somewhere where frustrations can be released. Well, you could, but it would be a bad idea! Just the thought of sneaking off somewhere with your gay escort to touch and kiss and stimulate and tease each other can make you feel aroused, excited and naughty all in one.

So, if you think you'd like to go to a gay sauna with an escort of your choice, then you should give it a go! Satisfaction guaranteed!

We know that for some of you the hottest guys on SleepyBoy.com are the Muscle Men. Beautiful men with bulging muscles are hot, horny & ready to meet on the biggest Gay Escort Directory site in the UK - but have you ever wondered how these boys keep themselves in tip top condition?

This blog will look at how these muscle men keep in tip top shape, develop their beautiful ripped bodies and keep themselves looking great just for you.

Keeping Sexy is a Way of Life

Developing the body beautiful has never been easy, it is not simply a matter of lifting a few weights but more a way of life. You have to be dedicated and you have to be prepared to endure the pain to get the gain. Hitting the gym, eating right and working those muscles is just a way of life for these guys. The Muscle Toned Gay Escorts listed on SleepyBoy are at the peak of physical fitness and they work out all day to look good for you.

Healthy Eating for a Perfect Body

It may not be the first thing that comes to mind if you are just thinking about how to achieve the perfect muscle tone but keeping a healthy diet is incredibly important. Muscle building diets include making a change to a diet to make it more protein-centric with lean offerings such as chicken and foods like oats, eggs and brown rice. All this is because part of any muscle development will involve bulking up.

That means eating a lot more. In fact, for those sexy gay escorts who are really dedicated to a developing muscle or even to emulate a bodybuilder's lifestyle they may well be eating 6 big meals a day.

Bodybuilding Supplements

We're not talking about illegal substances such as steroids here. There are plenty of supplements that bodybuilders take which are both legal and necessary, to get the defined muscles of many men's dreams. Dedicated bodybuilders will take supplements to support things like liver function and reduce cholesterol levels.

Protein Shakes

Protein shakes are becoming popular with the mainstream public and generally considered a healthy way to supplement a period of exercise. What you may not be aware of is that these shakes were originally the province of bodybuilders and if you are dedicated to your cause then you might be going through a good size tub each week. For a hunky muscly Gay Escort protein shakes become an integral part of their diet.

Working Out at the Gym

Working out at the gym is obviously the best and only way to get those muscles pumped up and ready to go. Some of the best gay escorts work out daily (or more) at the gym to make sure they have the muscles you are looking for and the stamina to give you a good workout! Some gyms are specifically set up for muscle men and bodybuilders and if you are lucky enough to also work out at those types of gyms when the hot muscle guys come in to train you will get a great view of how much work they put into their beautiful bodies. To find a sexy Gay Escort with a beautiful toned body or even a huge bodybuilder visit sleepyboy.com for the biggest and best directory of Gay Escorts – anywhere.

London Sex Dungeons are one of the most freeing places anywhere. A secret place where all your kinky or vanilla fantasies can come true. Well equipped, very discrete and with a great range of different sex dungeons on offer you could even work your way around London trying different ones out. Visiting a gay sex dungeon with a gay escort has to be one of the kinkiest and most satisfying things you can do.

Why choose a London Sex Dungeon?

Large scale gay sex equipment can be either very costly to buy or too bulky to store in the home so gay sex dungeons provide all the equipment you could ever dream of and some you didn’t even know existed! Many give a guided tour of the facility and show you how to use the more complex items while leaving how you play with them completely up to you. They are then cleaned thoroughly after your stay, so you don’t have to. The equipment on offer can be extremely exciting and can include cages, fuck machines, suspension harnesses, sex slings or swings, glory holes, a St Andrews Cross, a whipping and restraining bench and a huge range of smaller toys like vibrators, whips, canes, masks, chains, collars and leads.

Spending time in a Sex Dungeon

Many of the London gay sex dungeons are flexible when it comes to how long you can stay there, many offer a range of options including hour long visits, 3 hours, to overnight stays, to whole weekends and week-long stays for those of you who really want to immerse yourself in the kinkier side of life! Many of the London Sex Dungeons have chill out areas or relaxation spaces with beds, bathrooms, showers and sometimes lovely bathrooms in which to relax so you can spend as much time there as you please.

Gay Escorts and Sex Dungeons

If you truly want to have the best time in a London Sex Dungeon, then you need to take your favourite gay escort with you as they are masters in making you feel just the way you want to! I you want to be completely dominated, spanked on locked in a cage then a gay escort is the best person to really deliver the best sexual experience you can imagine for as long as you want.

We love a good sex dungeon, they truly are playtime, fun sexy and satisfying and the best benefits for using a London Gay Sex Dungeon are listed below:

They have all the equipment you need – you will never run out of sex toys and equipment to experiment and play with in a well-equipped sex dungeon.

They are private – No one needs to know you are going, they are completely discrete and look like any other building from the outside, so you can enjoy your naughty games in private. They are also often located near a tube station, so they are easy to access and find.

Gay Escorts love playing in them – Gay Escorts love a sex dungeon as they get to unleash their sexual creative side to really deliver the experience you are looking for no matter what that is!

They are affordable – Many have hourly rates and get less expensive the more hours you book, so stay for a while, they are also more affordable than trying to buy all the equipment yourself as sex toys like fucking machines can be very expensive.

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nline then don’t skip past the steel sex toy range. It may be slightly pricier than other options – but these types of bedroom accessories are worth their weight in gold (or steel).

Steel gay sex toys are some of the finest and most luxurious around on the market. Unlike their plastic counterparts, metal dildos have a smooth, weight to them, giving a truly fulfilling feel. They are strong and tough – which is exactly why gay men like to use them as part of a fun BDSM sex session with gay escorts. There's no mistaking the appeal of these bad boys in the bedroom.

But why use steel sex toys in the first place? Hmmm, let's have a think....

a) It takes the bedroom action up a notch. Think of them as more aggressive, the sex toy of least resistance, so your gay escort can pleasure you on a whim. The firm feel of metal dildos is unlike any other and a guaranteed way to reach your strongest orgasm.

b) The cold, firm, metal feel of it on your skin will drive you wild, just knowing what's about to happen. It has a more erotic feel which leads to a more intense, authentic BDSM experience.

c) You can't escape metal restraints. If your gay escort takes it into his head to pin you down with metal cuffs, there won't be much that you can do about it. Unlike soft ropes or ties that suggest a less firm approach, there will no mistaking this restraint. Metal cuffs are just perfect for taming those wandering hands and likewise with shackles. If your master feels that you need to be held on the spot, then he can use metal shackles to keep your feet together. Another type of restraint which shows that he really means what he's doing.

d) And for another bonus – you can use any type of lube you like, and clean-up is easy. A quick wipe with an antibacterial sex toy cleaner and you're good to go for next time!

Steel Gay Sex Toys

Metal cuffs and shackles are all very well, but there's one important sex toy of steel that can't be missed out – a metal chain. Having multiple uses, a metal chain truly shows who's in command, i.e. ‘the chain of command'. Whoever is wielding this really does hold the power.

What can a metal chain be used for in BDSM play?

A variety of things ranging from being another restraint, to clipping it to a dog collar and making your sub move around on his hands and knees like the dirty little dog he is. Just the threat of using a chain is enough to make a slave whimper. Plus, in an ideal world, this steel sex toy can be used along with other types of BDSM gear, whether actually connected or not.

Gay Escorts & Steel Sex Toys

So the next time that you find yourself idly browsing the sex toys online then don't skip past the steel sex toy range. It may be slightly pricier than other options – but these types of bedroom accessories are worth their weight in gold (or steel).

Well, who doesn't? This loveable, friendly rogue has a universal appeal to gay men; even if they don't actually see themselves in a sexual situation with one. Contrary to popular belief, not all gay men fit neatly into one category. There are many different ones - but a Bear usually stands out from the rest.

What exactly is a Gay Bear?

He's a hairier man, who is often larger and gives out an image of rugged masculinity. He is set apart from fellow daintier men, like otters and wolves. Their oh-so-masculine image is really the foundation and underpinning to being a Bear, but they also have some of the softest hearts around. Awwwww....

Why do Gay Bears make good lovers?

There are so many reasons! He is often a more emotionally complicated man who sometimes has a conflict between feelings and appearances. In the bedroom you can find that his softer, more sensitive side comes into play. At odds with how he looks, he can be deeply passionate and gentle.

However. That doesn't mean to say that he can't be deeply passionate and angry, if provoked. After all, he's a Bear, right? And what do Bears do? They ensure that they hover near the top of the food chain and they're very ready to get their predators under control. If you provoke him you might find that you get a bit more of ‘throw-you-on-the-bed-and-fuck-you' type of sex. He'll be aware of your needs as a more slightly built gay man and he'll give you the rough and tumble, sub/dom sex of your dreams.

How else do Bears hold their appeal?

Apart from their warm hearts, they look hot in fetish wear. Just that. Tightly encased in leather or stockings, holding a chain to lead you around with or going a bit more out there with a plushie fantasy, there are no limits to this man's sexual appetite. He'll dress up, immerse himself in role play, be your slave or if you're the sub, he'll restrain you with metal cuffs if that's how he feels, and perhaps a choker for when you go out and about so he knows that he's in control. And for you, this means that you can safely indulge yourself with a fantasy scenario, or two, of your very own.

And another thing to think about along the fetish wear lines, is how erotic it could be to see a Gay Bear wearing a chastity device - if you can persuade him! This large, imposing man could find himself at your very mercy...

Finding your own Gay Bear

If this paints a picture that intrigues, inspires, turns you on and gets your heart racing, then you can hire a gay escort Bear to join you exclusively in the bedroom. So if you've constructed your ideal secret Gay Sex fantasy around being with a large, hairy partner, the you can find your favourite on sleepyboy.com